Originally posted by: dd11 on 7/8/2007 3:46:05 AM

Bethany,

Some people are just petty, and I think weddings bring out the worst in the bride and groom. Weddings have become big business in terms of what the couple can get instead of emphasizing the importance of the marital vows. Greed is a big factor in deciding who to invite to showers and the wedding reception.

I chastized my own daughter who left our family completely out of the loop in planning her wedding. Her stepmother and future MIL planned the affair. Her stepmother orchestrated the shower and did not invite close members of my family, but invited friends of her MIL and stepmother.

She asked her stepmother to help her to pick out the wedding gown even though we had made plans to go together last Dec. I was floored when she told me in March that she had already gotten her gown. She didn't have the courtesy to send me a picture. I will never forget the heartache she caused me; my daughter denied me the pleasure of being a part of her most important day. I raised her alone since she was three years old when her father filed for divorce.

Her only brother was not asked to be an usher while her stepmother's niece is an attendant. My sister is so angry with my daughter that she does not want to attend the wedding.

My daughter told my father he would have to pay for his only living sister to be a guest at the wedding. She doesn't want my Mom at the wedding because she has dementia. My Dad is 84, and my parents were extremely generous to their first grandchild. To me this is plain cruel.

Since her father makes a six figure salary, my daughter follows the money. I hit the roof when she put very expensive china on the wedding registry. My goodness, the sugar and creamer cost $230 for the pair.

I don't have the choice to boycott her wedding, but I don't want to go. However, I will attend with my head high and a smile on my face. But, the next time my daughter wants a favor, I will tell her to ask her stepmother!

When you think it can't get any worse, it does.

So, Bethany, your experience at your nephew's wedding is part of a sad trend by the younger generation who seem to be rather heartless toward close family members.

Hey Granna, go to the top of the page, click on Everthing but cooking, and it will bring up the list of the different sites.  There you will see the exchange site and you will see what you are looking for.

Annnnd you can see most of the others are posting under "We are Family 31" since the other "we are family" got too long.

Hope this helps, if you need more help, please let me know and I will do my best to help you.